in all honesty–and this is me speaking from the assumption that there is no 4th ep or series 5 johnlock–i don’t think there was ever any intention on the part of the creators to have john and sherlock be together. i think they intentionally played with that idea because it was fun and interesting for them to engage in victorian-style homoerotic subtext, but they didn’t want the social or political “burden” of actually following through on john and sherlock’s relationship. they thought the subtext was clever, but they never viewed it as something to take seriously, and they perhaps didn’t think queer people were the ones taking interest in the belief that this show would positively represent them. they just wanted to play in the world of sherlock holmes, but they didnt want to have their sherlock be “the gay sherlock.” and yes, all of that is cruel and bullshit, but i think they never took this as seriously as we did.